Moms, how do you juggle chores, baby, relationship, work, etc?

First off let me say I feel your pain, it's like you're preaching to the choir (I have 4 kids ages 3,6,7,9 and slim to no help). What you are experiencing is far to normal amongst mothers. Although there is no magical instant solution to your issue I can offer you some advice. You suffer from "super-mom-i-titus" which is the overwhelming desire to be the "perfect" Mom/wife/lover/cooker/housekeeper/friend… etc. and when you feel you are falling short you feel guilty. You have to keep in mind that if you are putting your own needs last then you aren't going to be able to care for your child the best you can. It is 100% okay for you to let the little things slide sometimes. The dishes aren't going to complain if they are neglected for a day or two so you can nap while the baby naps. Next, you're going to have to find a more efficient way to manage your daily routine. For example I noticed you mention you pump exclusively, would it be possible for you to breast feed instead which will kinda kill two birds with one stone. Your child will be recieving the cuddling he desires and he'll get fed at the same time. Also you mentioned that he spits up a lot. Maybe you should have him checked out by his pediatrician in respect to a possible reflux problem. If he does have an underlying issue you might find that once it's taken care of his temperment and sleeping patterns may regulate themselves. Another suggestion to help free up a little daily time for you is to set aside one day a week that you do all your cooking for the week and freeze the portions to be reheated during the week. Then if need be all your hubby has to do to get a home-cooked meal is reheat it. And finally...Never feel ashamed to ask for help. If you are exhausted, you are no good to your baby anyways so if you don't feel like asking your hubby to help then if possible call a friend, or relative and ask for some help. I hope this is able to help you and my best wishes to you and your family. Take care.